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Oh, I so relate to this. All I can say, a year out, is that your fancy self will come back. I am typing this from my office, in crazily patterned Dries pants with a full face of makeup, back at my normal weight. I have, with a touch of superstitious hesitation, thrown out every pair of sweatpants that I wore for post-surgery and chemo. It takes time. You will get there. Wishing you light and happiness and opportunities to wear your gorgeous clothes.

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This took my breath away. Thank you Miranda and Elizabeth for sharing.

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That was so powerful and a beauty of message, sending prayers to anyone affected by cancer. ❤️

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I really appreciate the author sharing her thoughts and feelings. When I had cancer almost 5 years ago( cervical) I had a total abdominal hysterectomy and radiation. I did not have chemo because they did not find it in my lymph nodes. My biggest concern was feeling strong again. I worked so hard at building my strength that I ended up in the Emergency Department after a 2 mile walk in the heat. I asked my husband why he let me do that & he said he couldn’t stop me. Cancer really messes with your mind. I understand ,as probably most other cancer patients do ,what the Princess said about uncertainty. We all hope the cancer is gone forever & that we get to live a long time with our loved ones but there are no promises.

I wish the author, The Princess of Wales & all others who have gone through this well and many days ahead( including me).

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Life is so complex. Thank you for such a Beautifully written glimpse into your experience.

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Thank you for sharing this beautiful perspective.

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What a beautiful reflection. Thank you for sharing!

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Thank you so much for sharing, Miranda 💛

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Such a powerful and relatable piece. Thank you for sharing. When I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in early 2020 I was surprised that my changing appearance and the loss of my "old self" was what I would grieve most. I was so afraid of looking sick. I cried most easily at the thought of losing my hair. Fashion has always been an important part of my life and while post-pandemic I throw on athletic wear more than I'd like to admit, just knowing I can style a nice outfit to express myself to the world is comforting. During treatment, I was so frustrated by the lack of decent-looking yet functional options for easy port access that I made myself a garment. In the few years that have past since I was in active treatment I have turned that garment into a business in hopes of helping someone else who's struggling to feel like themselves during their cancer experience. It's those little things, like a good outfit, that have some much power during an otherwise very difficult time.

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This essay was absolutely gorgeous. It will stay with me. Thank you, Miranda, and thank you, Elizabeth, for introducing us to Miranda & her work!

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Thank you Elizabeth, for providing such a thoughtful and caring space for this discussion, and thank you Miranda, for sharing your experience so generously and beautifully. Reading your perspective, I feel a combination of grief, awe, and comfort in the honesty and strength of your words. I wish you well—thank you again!

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Miranda- thank you for this incredible essay and for sharing a deeply personal story and perspective. When you talked about how we pump ourselves up with a well planned outfit, I thought of the many days I was weary and in pain and how that outfit could lift my spirits. I do not have cancer- I have a long term and painful condition. I watched my beloved SIL go through cancer and clearly recall the two times she cried- when she had to make a decision about where to go to treatment and then when she opened the oven and singed the bangs on her new wig. She has beaten the odds and I hope that you do the same.

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Thank you for sharing.

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